RE: A Day on the Golf Course, and Why Women should Stop Apologizing.

Elizabeth Morris — Wed, 08 Mar 2017 14:56:32 GMT

Awesome post, Ling. Thank you for sharing!

RE: A Day on the Golf Course, and Why Women should Stop Apologizing.

Robert Flynn — Wed, 08 Mar 2017 14:55:28 GMT

Great post Ling, and thanks for linking to so much research! Deborah Tannen (in her book about gendered conversation styles at work, Talking From 9 to 5) makes the distinction between apologizing as a recognition of understanding the other person's feelings, as in "i'm sorry [that happened]" and an admission of fault. As you mentioned, the problem is in misunderstanding the meanings. Tannen's books have been very illuminating to me to understand style differences and to try to reduce misinterpretation.

For those who want external help to apologize less, there is a Chrome plug-in called Just Not Sorry (www.cyrusinnovation.com/.../) that underlines words like sorry that can diminish their message. The creators discuss the app with Deborah Tannen on NPR: www.scpr.org/.../

RE: A Day on the Golf Course, and Why Women should Stop Apologizing.

Meha Jha — Wed, 08 Mar 2017 14:44:54 GMT

Thanks for sharing these tips Ling this is something I'm guilty of doing all the time.